“There is no such thing as a “broken family.” Family is family, and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. The only time family becomes null is when those ties in the heart are cut. If you cut those ties, those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those people are your family. And if you hate those ties, those people will still be your family because whatever you hate will always be with you.”
The recent news of Melinda Gates and Bill Gates divorce has taken the social media by storm.. WOW and here I thought that the rich people were less prone to divorces.
In their recent tweet “After a great deal of thought and a lot of work on our relationship, we have made the decision to end our marriage. Over the last 27 years, we have raised three incredible children and built a foundation that works all over the world to enable all people to lead healthy, productive lives. We continue to share a belief in that mission and will continue our work together at the foundation, but we no longer believe we can grow together as a couple in this next phase of our lives. We ask for space and privacy for our family as we begin to navigate this new life.”
The petition for divorce filed by Melinda Gates, posted by Yahoo Finance, said, “This marriage is irretrievably broken.”
I’m forced to think what derives a relationship? I was in a marriage where people kept whining about dowry, gold, expensive gifts and all the riches that were missing in our wedding. Despite being an apparently reasonably sound family, they demanded and complained they were not weighed in gold.. Despite my efforts trying to convince my partner that it is the character, values and morals that count in relationship but it used to always come down to “what” and “how much” was brought in the wedding…
Can a marriage only survive when a woman says YES to everything? Should a woman survive even if she's living with an abusive partner? Should a woman NOT raise concerns/help if she feels that her partner needs psychological help?
I wonder what my EX partner has to say now about this divorce. If he and his family were right, if “materialism” is the “essential” and the “foundations” of any marriage, this should have been the most ideal and happiest marriage. What made them part ways now?
Having said all this, by no means I am implying that divorce doesn't hurt the rich people or it hurts the common people more or vise versa. Divorce is a terrible thing for both. Both have to go through emotional and mental stress. I personally think its equally challenging for both despite who ever is at fault.
In my opinion we need to understand men and woman are two different genders, with different thinking patterns and perspectives. Its okay to make your partner aware of your likings and disliking. Its okay to share your strengths but its UNACCEPTABLE to make them do as per your likings at the cost of their mental and physical health. Its UNACCEPTABLE to punish them for their mistakes. Its UNACCEPTABLE to not seek or at least listen to their advise in matters.
It’s UNACCEPTABLE to see women as a DUMB/DEAF or MUTE objects where they can exercise their controls with no accountability.
Lets realize the importance of both the individuals in the marriage and their contributions and be grateful for having each other. If even then, it doesn't work out for you, of course you have no other option but to navigate on a different path.
Lets learn to care for each other. Learn to forgive. Learn to overlook the mistakes. Maintain healthy communication with your loved ones. Clear misunderstandings ASAP. Lets make this society and world a more peaceful place to live in!